The myth of finding your 'better half'
How many times have we heard people say 'one day you will find your better half' or 'you need someone that completes you'. Allow me to get a little philosophical here but this got me to thinking: is there really such a thing as a better half? Or is it all a myth?
Through life and experiences we are taught self-love, self-care and how to become self-sufficient. If you really think about it, we are complete beings, we shouldn't be on a quest to find someone to complete us, we are enough. Now if you go through life with this perspective, you will never have to hold-on to anyone or any relationship because you think that you 'need them' to be complete; from where stems the idea of dependency, we become dependent when we think we lack something.
“Try not to confuse attachment with love. Attachment is about fear and dependency, and has more to do with love of self than love of another. Love without attachment is the purest love because it isn’t about what others can give you because your empty. It is about what you can give others because you’re already full.”
Like most people, I was a victim of this way of thinking and have since realized that often we think this way because we feel like there is something missing within us. Find what it is you think you are missing and work on yourself everyday to make yourself whole again.
And if you are in a relationship, you and your partner (two whole beings) should stand beside one another and push each other to do better rather than feed off each other to find completeness.
On this note, love is an amazing feeling, but make sure you seek love for the right reasons.
XO,
Marie Cristina